I WANT TO BE THE "FROSTING"

Today, I came across this quote:

“Grandmas are moms with lots of frosting.” ~ Unknown 

I'm not sure if this quote is talking about the "frosted" hair...or all the wonderful things that grandmothers can get away with, when it comes to their grandchildren.  My boys would probably say this is talking about their grandmother allowing them to eat huge servings of chocolate cake for breakfast during one of their childhood visits.

Anyway...it made me think about grandparents...grandmothers, in particular.

I hardly knew my grandmothers...

Photo taken in the late 1950s to early 1960s

  My birth was a late in life one for my mom. And she was the youngest of 10. So my maternal grandmother was quite old during my early childhood. What I do remember was the smell of her home...The scent of olive oil warming on the stove. To this day, that smell brings her to mind. Sadly, this grandmother...the one with whom I had slight relationship...spoke very little English, and I was not yet fluent in Spanish.  Grandma DelValle was an immigrant...coming over to the US at the young age of 8. If she knew English, she had forgotten most of it during our time together. So...I really did not know her. And I was only 1 of tons of grandchildren. The eldest grandchild was already an "old man" when I came along....

   



My paternal grandmother was a tall, stern woman. I have only a few memories of her...and no photos. (She and my mother disliked each other, immensely.) The most vivid memory is of her telling me to get out of the drainage ditch water...because I might get worms. I was under 5 years when this took place. But I hear wonderful stories of Bama, from my sister. Sis talks about white gloves and pearls, hats and tea. How I wish I had those memories...

My boys did not really know their grandmothers, either. Other than the 1-2 visits a year, during their early years, my mom (94) did not see the guys, and she never talked with them on the phone. (Skype was not available then...but Mom would probably not have used it.) By the time we relocated to Florida...and lived less than 20 miles from Mom, she and Dad had retired and spent most of the years traveling or staying in the mountain house. While I don't fault them for enjoying their retirement, I am sad that my boys never got to see the crazy, fun side of my mother...of the lady who used to be the instigator of all things mischief, according to her siblings...of the lady who could warm your heart when she smiled. Today, although she is still living, dementia has taken such a strong hold on her mind. She tries, but does not remember the boys...or me.

My husband's mother saw the boys even less frequently than my mom... Gmac visited us once, when we lived in PA...after that trip, she was confined to the home due to her husband's health (MS). After his death, she refused to come visit...even with the offer of one of us accompanying her on the plane or driving her down to FL. She maintained that it took her 45 years to get out of FL, and that she would never return. So she even missed the weddings of two of our boys, and she has not seen her great-granddaughter. We've visited as much as possible, but the strong relationships were never there...And now, with her health concerns, it's difficult for her to be with "strangers".

Now, I am a grandmother....and I fully intend to be a part of the life of my granddaughter...and any future grandchildren I might have. I plan to learn from the mistakes of my parents and grandparents...and in-laws. I want to KNOW my sons, their wives, and their children. (so far, only one)

After all...who could resist this little munchkin...

I want to be the "FROSTING"

Here's some more quotes and wise sayings about Grandmothers...

"Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple. Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love."  ~Anonymous

 "Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.  Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children."  ~Alex Haley

"We should all have one person who knows how to bless us despite the evidence, Grandmother was that person to me."  ~Phyllis Theroux

"Becoming a grandmother is wonderful. One moment you're just a mother. The next you are all-wise and prehistoric."  ~Pam Brown

"Grandmas don't just say "that's nice" -- they reel back and roll their eyes and throw up their hands and smile. You get your money's worth out of grandmas."  

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete.

- Marcy DeMaree

Grandmothers are the people who take delight in hearing babies breathing into the telephone.

- Author Unknown

A grandmother is a little bit parent, a little bit teacher, and a little bit best friend.

- Author Unknown

If nothing is going well, call your grandmother.

- Italian Proverb

Celebrate your Gorgeous Grandma (and Grandpa) today!

IT'S MELANOMA MONDAY!

IT'S MELANOMA MONDAY...TIME TO REMIND YOU TO USE SUNSCREEN AND TO CHECK YOU SKIN!

This poster was on facebook today. It's a good basic reminder.  As the poster says...It's time to save your skin!

Around the country, many dermatologists offer free or discounted screenings during the month of May. Check out your local doctors and see if there is someplace near you...It truly can save your life. You can also check here:
www.aad.org

AND...Use sunscreen!!! It's recommended that you use a good product that is at least an SPF 30. 

To remind you what the SPF means...it's Skin Protection Factor. Factor means that you multiply. (See...those math lessons are useful, after all!)  I'll use my skin (fair) as an example...If I am in the sun without protection, my skin begins to turn pink within 10 minutes of exposure. So...if I used an SPF 30 product, I would get 300 minutes (30 x 10 min) of protection (about 5 hours). Even when the sun product says 8 hours of protection... And that protection is also dependent on water/sweat/etc. factors.

I use a COMPLETE Suncare product...protection from UVA 1 and 2  and UVB rays...every day. If I am in the water, I use one specifically for that purpose. And, yes, I still get a tan...a healthy golden glow. (Don't forget to protect your hands, ears, and head!)

Remember...you can get sunburned in your car...whichever side you are on,your hands, your arm, face, and neck are exposed. That's why you need to wear a sun product most of the time...even on cloudy days. 

PROTECT YOUR SKIN! It's your body's largest organ. (And you will look YOUNGER if you do!)

Jane

SLIP on a Shirt
SLAP on a Hat
SLIDE on some Sunglasses
SLOP on Sunscreen

Wild Thing...

She makes my heart sing...

Can't believe how quickly she is growing....

Don't you just love the skull and crossbones hat???

FINALLY...IT'S BEACH TIME AGAIN!

Finally...the weather is perfect for spending time at the beach!
The water is still a bit cool, but it feels so good to stick my toes in it...

I love the shades of blue in the water...

And I love to watch the birds...

This one became my buddy...he seemed to follow me wherever I went.

End of the day...

If only I could capture these colors on a canvas...

I love how the sun appears to be sinking into the gulf...

No green flash tonight...

But the reflection of the moon was gorgeous!

All these photos were taken at Sand Key...just across the bridge from Clearwater Beach, FL...my home.

Greatma (my mother) has finally been moved out of the nursing unit at her residence and into assisted living, into the dementia unit. She is no longer able to make her traditional bunnies for Easter. We weren't even sure she would remember them. So yesterday, I took several dozen cupcakes with both Greatma's bunnies and Peeps toppers to the nursing staff, to thank them for all they have done for my mom. And would you believe, Mom recognized the marshmallow bunnies and got so excited that someone remembered her Easter treat....

And the tradition lives on....

This is a post I wrote a couple of years ago...on our family tradition of making marshmallow Easter Bunnies...

Easter and Easter bunnies always bring to mind my momma's Easter cake...and cupcakes. Beginning the week before Easter, Momma would start the process of making these darling creatures...then she would make cupcakes until they were covering every flat surface in our kitchen. These were the special treats she would give to all the kids in the neighborhood...to friends...to our classmates...and when I became a teacher, she even made them for the children in my classroom. The cake, itself, was just a "box cake" (usually yellow), the frosting was always homemade, but the decorations were so very special. Momma never relied on store-bought Peeps (my absolute favorite Easter treat) for her bunnies, she made them herself, using a single large marshmallow, some frosting, and a tiny bit of pink crepe paper. We kids always made a contest out of who could eat the bunny without removing the pink paper. (She finally began decorating the ears with pink frosting...to keep us from eating the crepe paper!)

To make Greatma's Bunnies:

1 large marshmallow

scissors (Dip your scissors in water before each cut...no sticking!)

pink frosting

pink crepe paper (i don't use this anymore - too much trouble to remove before eating!)

Cut the marshmallow about 1/3 down from the top. DO NOT CUT ALL THE WAY THROUGH!!!

Fold the cut edge until it stands up. This makes the face/head.

Where the marshmallow bends, either make a tiny cut or pinch a tiny gash and press the "face"onto the raw, sticky gash. The head is now standing up a bit.

With the scissors, cut a V into the top of the face...just a short way down. This makes the ears.

Use the little cut piece to make the tail...press it onto the "butt".

Make little pink eyes and nose with the frosting. (Put a little frosting on the backs of the ears if desired.)

Frost a cupcake with Chocolate frosting (it's the dirt)...or any flavor you wish. Place the "bunny" into the frosting. Sprinkle a little coconut (tinted a light green)* around the bunny. Press a few jelly beans (eggs) into the soft frosting. Let stand for a little while so the bunny and eggs have a chance to stick. Enjoy!

Momma's memories are fleeting...she's suffering from Dementia. Perhaps she will remember these little bunnies...and the fun we had making them each year.

Wishing all of you a Blessed Easter.

Jane

* This year, I found edible Easter grass. It was a wonderful alternative to the green-dyed coconut.

TIME KEEPS ON SLIPPING....

I can't believe it! 
I COMPLETELY MISSED FEBRUARY!   And I broke my New Year's resolution
...writing at least 2 times a month. Here it is...March 16 and this is the first time I have even checked with my blog friends. My apologies...I really do care. It's just been difficult to write...

But I am still JOYFUL....even with the craziness around me. In fact, my joy increases abundantly, each time I think about my blessings...and there are MANY!

Update:

Mediation came and went. A waste of time. No resolution. 

Rowdy (my constant companion) passed away...very peaceful about this, but I really miss him!



Readied Mom's new apartment...closed the old one. Moving day was set for Tuesday.
                                                                                           
Learned on Friday that Mom cannot be moved from the nursing care facility to the "Harmony Care" unit for another week or so. She needs more intensive training on safety issues....which she promptly forgets.(This has been up and down so many times. We're all frustrated and she is so unhappy. At least she doesn't remember that she was moving...even though we have visited her new place multiple times. All I can say is getting old stinks!) 

Traveled with Marty for a week! (That was fun!) We just went to Orlando and to Jax...and took a side trip to my beloved St Augustine. (Had a great lunch at South Beach Grill...one of our favorite beachside restaurants) A good time of relaxation, shopping, and catching up with an old friend...Plus extra time with our middle son! (These guys must be "yankees"...it was freezing! Temps were in the mid-50s. That's COLD in Florida!)

Making decisions where we would like to live...just in case...near our kids? St Augustine? a condo? another house?

But the biggest news:

Miss Evelyn is ONE!

All in all, life it good!

Oh yes...I am painting again!!! And it makes me very happy!

Jane

WHEW! Thank goodness January is....

In the past month...

Car breaks down...
Mom falls...dislocates her shoulder and whacks her head.
Mom's dementia accelerates...
Car breaks down...again.
Washing machine's sensor malfunctions...house floods. All the
 floors are warping and need to be replaced.
Car breaks down...again! (Why can't they find the source of
 the problem???)
AC is down...again. (Hey, it's 80+ degrees here! And it's pollen season until the end of March!)
Dishwasher breaks...
Front door has issues...
Rowdy, my dog and constant companion for 11 years, has
 been diagnosed with lesion(s) on his brain... 
Mediation for our home is in 2 weeks...(after a 5 year battle
 with the bank)

All these things are DISTRACTIONS!

They distract me from the really important stuff...

They have inhibited my creative spirit...


Yes, occasionally, I feel sorry for myself...occasionally, I dwell on the bad stuff (and there's a lot more, I could list)...but then, I am reminded of the wonderful family I have...my loving husband...three well-grounded sons...sweet daughters-in-law...a beautiful granddaughter...a strong marriage...a man who joyfully supports me in all my eccentricities...my health...the fact that we have a job and can once again pay all our bills (and good prospects for rebuilding our reserves and retirement funds)...a home (for now and good prospects for keeping it)...wonderful friends...and so many more blessings...

Yes...I am filled with JOY!

All the troubling things...the distractions...are temporal. They will resolve themselves in a short while. As an old friend once pointed out...our trials are but a dot on the timeline of eternity. I am being prepared...molded...formed into the woman I am meant to be...

The important thing is...how I deal with distractions. Do I get so caught up in them that I am dwelling on the negative? Do I rant and rail?

This morning, I read a wonderful article in my daily devotional. It was talking about "cussing thoughts". In the article, three questions were given for us to ask ourselves...

• Is this thought in line with truth?
• Is this thought in line with who I am?
• Is this thought in line with who I want to be?

*Women of Faith/ Lysa TerKeurst  (BTW It's a great article!)
http://us-mg6.mail.yahoo.com/neo/launch?.rand=ehtl53p4vl3ob#mail

These are really good questions...and they are definitely helpful, especially when dealing with the distractions in your life. Do I want to rail at all the "distractions"? Yes!  But then, is this the woman I want to be? Bitter...complaining...unhappy with life? NO!

I CHOOSE JOY!

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that 
you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4


I am a work in progress...